My dad died

laprimamirala wrote:

Teachable Moment: Have a will, no matter how old you are.

What's funny (or not-so-funny) is he was supposed to get one this weekend when he went up to Sacramento (he was supposed to see a concert last night). His brother was supposed to write it for him.

GoGetEmTigers wrote:

There are a lot of collectors out there who would go crazy over buying the train stuff. You have a gold mine there, depending on the models he had.

One suggestion, from my own experience, is to keep the stuff he named after you and your sisters. Also you may want to keep a train set. My uncle gave me his antique train, when I was in my early teens. Like a fool, I sold it after about 5 years, now I am mad because it meant so much to him, and I don't have it now when I would appreciate it!

I would have a train collection expert give you an appraisal on the trains, so you are not ripped off if you sell them.

Oh I know there's good stuff there. Not sure I want to sell any of it since he worked so hard on it. Maybe in time I could get rid of trains and what not since he didn't put much effort into the cars - you just pretty much buy those. All the buildings he put together and added all kinds of detail though.

Need opinions on two things....


1. Went to a bunch of stores all day with an aunt. Didn't buy anything but it got me out of the house all day. I felt sort of like that was inappropriate. Everyone else in my family is doing things, I'm the only one that hasn't done much of anything since Wednesday, but I'm not sure if it's right to be doing things like that. I wouldn't say I had an enjoyable day or anything, but it could have been worse.

2. My sister and I were each supposed to pick out a song for the funeral. I didn't want to buy a song accidentally slipped out of my mouth and now my sister is adamant that we have to play the song ("Wish You Were Here" by Pink Floyd). While the song is a somewhat popular choice, I'm concerned about playing a classic rock song at a funeral especially with his family there. While his family isn't the least bit religious 99.9% of the time, when it comes to funerals and weddings they suddenly become super strict Catholics. They're already furious we're having my dad cremated rather than buried (my dad was very adamant about wanting to be cremated - he abhorred burials and stuff since they're so expensive and nobody ever visits the grave anyways) and I think playing Pink Floyd at the funeral might make them pretty angry, too. We aren't even having a priest at the funeral (which is good, because if a priest was there my dad would find a way to leave). For those not familiar with the song...