I had a dad that I know loved me, but HIS SPORTS AND LIFE was more important to him than my mom or I. He even insisted in living out HIS LOVE OF GOLF AND DESIRE TO BE A PRO in my life, since he was not good enough to be a pro. I had to put aside my life to practice, practice, practice a sport I was good at, but did not enjoy enough to want to make it MY LIFE!
I had to be on the Boys golf team, even though the first 2 years, the coach did not want a female on his team! The 1st year the guys did not want me there either. But by my SR. year I was the best golfer on the team and the guys hated the coach and saw that I could help the team win, so they made me co-capt. of the team. The coach was then pressured into playing me! And Other teams thought it was great I was golfing (even though they were not happy when I beat them :haha: ).
I loved track and field. So I made a deal with my dad that if he allowed me to be on the track team, I would then golf.
I even had to go to HIS CHOICE OF COLLEGE instead of where I wanted to go, because MSU was the Womans Golf Big 10 Champ for several years, he made me go there! I wanted to go to Eastern Mich. Univ, or U of M (where I would be on the starting team right away). But no, it had to be MSU. I really enjoyed the university, but had super pressure to try to make the traveling squad. My studies suffered due to all the time I had so spend on the golf course! By the middle of my 2nd year I finally told my dad to jump in a lake, I was not in college to golf, but to earn a degree! (I was not on schlorship.)
Because of the pressure he put on me, I finally dropped out of college and worked. I did continue going to community college, and when my dad retired he insisted we ALL move to FL so he and I could golf year round! He got me involved in a countryclub, and got me a golf pro to work with me. Again, he was very forceful and would not take no for an answer. The Pros thought I could be a great golfer, if I was willing to spend 12 hours a day at practice! I finally told him
no! I wanted to golf for fun only, go to school and work.
I ended up going to community college to get a degree in Real Estate, and after getting a lic. in FL (passed the state boards on my first try) and sold Real Estate for several years. I finally went back to university at the U of So. FL and earned 2 bach. degrees (and I never even looked at their very nice golf course!)
So yes, I know how fathers can be, on the opposite end of what you put up with Garrett! I think you are doing very well, considering the household environment you have to put up with! And your choice of sports, and other school activities will be a great outlet to help you be who you are.
You have a good head on your shoulders (please keep it there by not getting into too many bike accidents
) and you know what a father should not be! Chances are you will make a great father and husband someday, because you see what a bad father results in, family wise!
Keep up the good work Garrett, we are all with ya as friends!
(by the way, the long hours of golf is what destroyed both my knees.) People don't realize the damage Pro level golf does to the knees...just look at Past Pro Nancy Lopez (artificial knees now,) and Tiger Woods -- already having lots of knee problems.